Everything is perfect… or is it?

okiedokeEverything is perfect. Or is it?

Everything happens in perfect timing. Or does it?

In the “spiritual” world we talk about perfection a lot. We use the word “perfect” to describe all situations in a way of telling ourselves that God/Universe/All-that-is knows better than we do and even if we don’t understand the Divine Plan we know that it’s perfect anyway.

But when we talk about perfection we are talking about something that has no flaws. Sorry to break the news to you, but EVERYTHING has flaws.

We can still say that the flaws are perfect, but let’s get real for a minute. If perfect is perfect then there are no flaws.

We can say that something is perfect for me even if not for someone else. We like to use this version in our relationships. “Yes, you are messed up, but you are perfect for me.” (Robin and I like to use this line a lot.)  But again… let’s get real… if there are flaws, then it’s not perfect.

Perfection is a dream.  Even Nadia Comăneci (who in the 1976 Montreal Olympic Games became the first gymnast in Olympic history to be awarded the perfect score of 10.0 for her performance on the uneven bars) was only perfect in the OPINION of the judges.  I guarantee you that there were people who found flaws in her performance.  (I’m not one of them, BTW. I was completely blown away, but then again I was only 12 years old

Perfection is an illusion and a delusion. Now before you go an accuse me of being a pessimistic downer, let’s talk about some perfect alternatives: AWESOME. FANTASTIC. AMAZING. WONDERFUL. PHENOMENAL.

All these words and the many others like them are so much more perfect than “perfect” to describe any given situation or experience.  When we call something perfect, then it literally cannot get any better. Can you feel how limiting that is? There is ALWAYS something better, but once you call something perfect you’ve reached the end of possibility.

Yeah, but David, isn’t this just some silly semantic game you’re playing?  NO. There are many, many situations where I think using thesaurically similar words doesn’t matter. They have nuances that only affect someone based on their emotional or denotative understanding of the word.

PERFECT, however, is understood without such nuances. It may have nuanced usage (such as when it’s used sarcastically or in a way that indicates settling, such as “perfect, now let’s move on”), but we all understand that when used sincerely it speaks to the absolute.

By definition, and even more important: ENERGETICALLY, perfection is a horrible thing to inflict on a sentient being. It leaves no room for interpretation.  And if you are looking to achieve perfection, or worse… looking for perfection from others, you will always be let down.

For me (and I ask you check in with yourself to see if it holds true for you as well), the energy of perfection is very heavy and limiting. The other words feel light, exciting and expansive. They show promise of more to come, higher heights to reach, farther distances to travel. They motivate and energize. They acknowledge something great and still leave room for something greater.

Stop trying to be perfect, and just be friggin awesome. It’s soooo much more fun!

Much love